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Are Men of Today Really Men?

Dr. Voddie Baucham, an itinerant preacher in Houston,  suggests that men aren’t stepping into the role that God has ordained for men because of feminism.  As much as it has helped women in America, I am thinking that it could be a factor.  What do you think?  Watch the video and sound off!

  1. t. sheree
    March 25, 2009 at 5:37 pm

    I don’t think feminism in and of itself has prevented men from stepping into their designated roles in families. What about feminism would keep a man from, for example, praying for his family and teaching them about God’s Word? Aside from domestic violence and possibly reproductive rights issues, what other aspects of the feminist movement affect the household? Perhaps it’s more of an issue of men allowing the influence of the world to affect their homes…maybe?

  2. March 25, 2009 at 6:09 pm

    Um, feminism is just like any other -ism it is a way of saying we are who we are and we have rights. Racism, feminism, chauvinism, etc. are always in which a particular group asserts itself to the detriment of others. In this case women, who have been treated wrongly by men over hundreds of years, have now asserted who they are and have attained equal pay and have crushed the glass ceiling to a certain extent. The problem is that when people assert SELF, it starts out a good thing, but ends up hurting OTHERS. So in feminism’s case, it affected the welfare state of this country. Women are encouraged to have children outside of wedlock, because the state will provide for them. Families with men living in the household are penalized and benefits are taken away. There is now an incentive for a woman to have a child out of wedlock. So a vicious cycle of poverty and welfare dependence has started out of a feminist policy.

  3. t. sheree
    March 25, 2009 at 8:14 pm

    That still doesn’t answer my question. Just because there are resources available to us as believers, that doesn’t mean that we have to use them. Nothing in your explanation tells me why men fail to protect the families they create with teachings from the Word and the covering of prayer. To borrow from your explanation, is it possible that men aren’t even taking responsibility for the families they create in the first place, thus making it impossible for them to play the role assigned to them by God? My question concerns a household of believers, not general society.

    I won’t even touch on how…weak it is to assert that women are encouraged to have kids alone because welfare is available to them. It may work as a safety net for when the man jumps ship, but encourage? Nah.

  4. March 25, 2009 at 8:26 pm

    Feminism is on factor, not the only factor, in why men don’t take their positions. Not blaming feminism, but it is a prevailing worldview that has an effect.

    It does encourage, I have seen cases in which women have more than two or three kids by different daddies. If you know there will always be money there why stop? What encourages you to say no, I’m going to slow down?

    It hurts the home because in many instances because the two people are competing instead of completing, there is discord in the home. Feminism teaches that a woman is defined by her career. Well neither the woman, nor the man should be defined by their career, they are defined by God. So we have two-parent households with lots of money with the nanny raising the kids. Nobody sits down and says what is best for this family and how may we glorify God in that. In more severe cases, they actually play role reversal. The man is the woman and the woman is the man. But more of that later…

  5. t. sheree
    March 25, 2009 at 8:54 pm

    Well, I’m glad to see that feminism isn’t being blamed totally. Because that would be a cop out.

    We’ll have to agree to disagree on the “encourage” argument. I don’t think any of these women get pregnant on purpose just to struggle. Welfare doesn’t provide that much assistance to make the prospect of having a child attractive. What encourages you to say no, you ask? What encourages either the man or woman to not use contraception? I don’t think *any* thought goes into the process, in my opinion. There’s no planning or prevention on the part of either party. So, any woman who says, it’s okay, I get more welfare, is only saying that in reaction to criticism. And to be fair, welfare was not the result of the feminist movement. It came about as a part of The New Deal, which was birthed from the Great Depression, which resulted from the Crash of ’29, which…you get the point. Don’t blame feminism for welfare.

    With regard to your last point, how does competition within the home create an environment that prevents a man from taking his place as the spiritual head? Let’s be real here…there’s a lack of focus on God in homes where the father is the breadwinner and sole provider. The roles with regard to providing for the family are definitely impacted by women working outside of the home. However, let’s not blame the working woman for that. What happens in homes where women absolutely HAVE work because say, the father suffers from a handicap or some ailment that prevents him from working?

    The lack of male leadership in a family is not attributable to any one factor, and that much we agree on.

  6. May 11, 2009 at 10:50 pm

    There are women who have babies in hopes of getting the man to commit to them. Women do have a role in this problem, I believe.

    • t. sheree
      June 19, 2009 at 3:11 pm

      And, there are the men who have unprotected sex with these same women…the women with whom they don’t want committed relationships, yet risk their lives and “freedom” (so to speak) for pleasurable activity. Last I heard, women don’t become pregnant on their own. 🙂

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