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There is a Blueprint for Relationships!


Growing up, I came from a long line of players.  By osmosis and inheritance, I learned a lot of bad relationship-hindering habits from men inside and outside of my family.  When I became serious about my Christian walk, it forced me to look for a blueprint for a relationship.  I found one in the Word of God.


In Genesis 1, God speaking everything into existence, but when he got to man he stops and says to the Son and the Holy Spirit, “Let’s make man in our image.” (Gen. 1:26).  No other creation do we find God stopping to say this.  Man was his special creation.  God blesses him with the ability to multiply and subdue the earth.

God creates man and gives him stewardship of the garden, but God stops and says, “ Man, needs help.”  Not just any help but “suitable” help.  The word suitable was translated from a Hebrew word “neged”.  This word is like our word for “corresponding” or “like.”  Man needed a helper that was “like” him or that “corresponded” to him.  No animal would do!!!  So God creates Eve from Man’s Rib.  Man was asleep through this whole process.  (Just a comment — are we always asleep, men, when good things happen to us?)


Man sees Eve, is aroused, and exclaims, “Woman, you are bone of my bone, and flesh of my flesh.”  The writer then says:


For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. Gen 2:24


Man leaves father and mother, the two closest people to him so far, and sexually cleaves to his wife and the two became one flesh.  Man becomes one with his wife, physically, spiritually, and emotionally.  They are so close that they are related, literally, brother and sister.  Many people stop here thinking that marriage is about the two people, but the Bible declares, in Ephesians 5:31-32, that the “one flesh” relationship is a reflection of Christ and his church.


For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.  This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.  


Christ and his church (people who call Him Lord) is the blueprint for all relationships!!!  Christ sacrifices his seat in the throne room of heaven, comes down to be a lowly, mistreated man on earth and gives up His life for the church.  Christ so loves His bride that He is willing to give up everything that is dear to Him so that He could be with His bride.  Christ commits to be with His bride in spite of everything that she might do to hurt Him.  In fact, He chose a bride that showed no love to Him or his Father.  Until He showed her His love, he chose a bride that was incapable of loving Him.  He sticks with his bride, too!  Christ longs to be with His church, even though His church doesn’t always measure up.  Marriage turns out to not be the real thing, but only a copy of what will happen in heaven when we are with Jesus forever! (Rev. 19:9)


(To be continued)


  1. oxysmoron
    May 26, 2008 at 7:28 am

    I enjoyed reading on your blog. Blueprint was something which gave me a smile. Too bad Adam could not gain control of his emotion when his wife offered up the bad fruit to him. Yet this is so much like how we are. I am thankful that Jesus won’t allow His emotions for His church/bride to cause Him to faulter. Yet I do understand that this could be a way for us to understand while men and women are different in appearance they both are the same… sinners. Praise the Lord Jesus is not a sinner, nor could He be.

    I also enjoyed reading what you said:

    (are we always asleep, men, when good things happen to us?)

    I believe at times things can be so close we are blind to them. This in itself may seem that we are asleep while it is happening.

    Be blessed greatly in the Lord Jesus.

  2. May 26, 2008 at 8:30 am

    Lol. You are right I think He put him asleep, aside from the fact that it must have been painful to get a rib taken, so that God might have get full glory for his creation. Lest, man think he had anything to do with what God created.

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